They are unable to accurately read the emotions of others. People with low
emotional intelligence lack the skill necessary to predict the emotional responses of
other people.
They also fail to pick up on social cues that telegraph emotions to those with emotional
intelligence.
They are not in control of their feelings. Some people are good at managing their
emotions and dealing with them appropriately. Those low in emotional intelligence are
not one of those people.
Emotions tend to be exaggerated, because they lack the skill to soothe themselves.
Negative emotions also lead to poor decision-making in those with low emotional
intelligence.
Those that are easily stressed are often suffering from low emotional intelligence.
They behave and speak inappropriately. If you’re emotionally intelligent, you
understand that some things are appropriate, and others are not. Inappropriate behavior
and speech are common occurrences in those with low emotional intelligence.
They lack the ability, or interest, in sympathizing or empathizing with others. If
you’re low in emotional intelligence, it’s difficult to impossible to help others emotionally
with their challenges. People require support, empathy, and sympathy from time to time.
They often lack assertiveness. Do you know what you want? Are you open about your
wants and needs? Can you ask for what you want? Those low in emotional intelligence
will answer “no” to those questions.
They have poor self-control. This is related to poor emotional control and
inappropriate behavior. Impulsive behavior is a common sign of low emotional
intelligence.
Fortunately, emotional intelligence is highly alterable. Unlike your IQ, your emotional
intelligence can be raised through education and effort.
You can literally train yourself to be more emotionally intelligent. Some people are born emotionally intelligent, but
others have to learn this important set of skills.
This means you can greatly improve your ability to be part of a successful relationship.
